Should I go to ABC confinement centre or seek help from parents?
We believe that most of the new young moms will definitely look for confinement centre once they found out that they are pregnant.
However, there are some parents or parents-in-law of the new moms who would want to take care of the newborns by themselves. Since the newborns are their own grandchildren, pretty sure they are genuinely interested in your baby’s health, happiness and well-being. They would wish to spend most of the time with the newborns to make sure that the newborns are well taken care of and live in a comforting and non-institutional environment.
Unfortunately, some parents or parents-in-law’s strengths can also be weaknesses. It’s hard for you to tell the parents on what’s right or what’s wrong as what you say might offend them somewhat. They may feel that they know more about taking care of baby than you do and will ignore your so-called misguided ideas e.g. feeding, soothing, bathing, discipline etc. Other than undermining your authority, this may end up hurting your relationship with the folks.
Besides that, the energy and concentration level of your folks may be lower due to age and illnesses factors. This may go worse if adding a certain number of infants, toddlers or children for care at the same time. Running, jumping or going around with toddlers may utterly exhaust them. It may lead them to unexpected falls or injuries. Negligence of their health in favour of their newborn grandchildren also can lead them to have an increase in improper nutrition.
For many parents or parents-in-law especially during their retirement period, life is about to get better. They have done 30- 50 years of their service to their jobs and are looking forward to some years to leisure, travel, visit family and friends, or have their own agenda. Some of them may find it difficult from retirement days to once again caring for newborn grandchildren. The time they have earmarked is now spent almost every second on bathing baby, changing diapers, soothing crying baby, feeding baby etc. Somehow they lose their time of freedom.
When comes to this point, only you and your husband can make a final say on whether should you stay in confinement centre after delivering your baby. It would be great to let the professional ones to take care of your newborn and let the folks to have their own sweet time. We are more than delighted to welcome grandparents to come and visit their grandchild in AfterBirthCare. 🙂
Read our previous blog: Your No. 1 Choice of Confinement Centre